Partying seems like it should be one of the easiest things for people to do but time and time again, we see that it is actually a great source of anxiety. Despite that, most of us have a deep need for social connection. Individual friendships are valuable, but nothing can replace the experience of celebrating with a group of peers and community. The value of this cannot be overstated.
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- How to Go to a Party Alone
- How to Be the Life of Any Party
- How to Approach Strangers at a Party
First, pick a word that describes the way you wish to be remembered. If someone was describing you to another person, what word would you want them to use? To have fun, you must control your own communication and the impression you make.
Examples. Scintillating, incorrigible, vivacious.
Second, take the focus off yourself and listen to the vibe of the room. Think of examples in your own life when someone (possibly yourself) made things awkward because of dissonant signaling. Instead of fixating on what they did wrong, think about what they could have asked themselves or others to figure out the vibe and adjust.
Share your descriptive words and why you chose them. Then help each other brainstorm role models who already personify that. Ask each other for help making a list of their decision making heuristics that led them to be recommended. Spend 5-10 minutes per person.